I need to ask you a question: What is in charge of your life right now, in this very moment? Your fear or your confidence? Honestly. What is running the show?

Not sure? Okay, answer this question. In general, are you moving toward your goals or away from your goals or are you in a state of stagnation? If you are experiencing the latter two, your fear is in charge.

When my new clients realize their fear has been in charge, many of them dive headfirst into self-recrimination. But believe me when I say that condemnation is not what this moment is about. When you realize, and are ready to admit, that fear is running the show, this is a moment of personal liberation. You have an important piece of the puzzle. I say celebrate the awareness. You now understand the crux of the problem and can take steps to solve it. So let’s get to the solving.

I never advise clients to focus on expunging their fears for two reasons. First, that is not realistic, and time spent eradicating fears can be time wasted. While it is possible to completely rid yourself of a fear or two, the most efficacious path is to find your unique mode for managing your fears. We focus on managing the fears so that you are not obedient to them.

Think about why you haven’t moved toward your dream career. Underneath every one of your good reasons for not starting is a fear. We don’t need to analyze each one and understand its inception. While that might be a worthwhile exercise, we don’t have time for that. We need to move now. Instead, we need to manage our fears so that they don’t rule the roost. Our higher nature, where our dreams reside, needs to be large and in charge. How do we do this?